Natural Hair Rant

I’m always tired of seeing on Twitter, YouTube, Forums… “If you have natural hair then don’t do this..don’t use this..do this…”.  All natural hair is not the same. The same products that create dryness on one natural’s hair , creates moisture and frizz free on another natural. Thats like saying, “If you’re black then don’t use this…” . It’s a blanket statement and doesn’t really help people just learning about their natural hair. If you say “Don’t put water on your hair” , alot of impressionable people won’t research and just won’t put water on their hair because thats what they read. I think we should all research for ourselves before just jumping on bandwagons.

Also, it also bothers me when ladies bash alot of these natural hair products. They won’t bash the large products (L’Oreal, Pantene, etc), but choose to bash the smaller products. One thing I will never do is bash a product. If I don’t like something, I’m not going to tell all of Twitter, post a Bashing Video about it, post it on my blog, and yell out my windows like some people do. If I don’t like it, I’m not even going to mention it…and if I do, I will say that I should try using different amounts or that “it didn’t work well on me but it may work well on you”. Once a person bashes a company, then the forums start going abuzz …and then alot of impressionable people read it and run with it and don’t even give alot of these products a chance.  I give every product a chance. It’s almost like alot of these ladies have personal vendettas against alot of these brands. It’s so crazy how people will go on rants and posts on EVERYONE’s blog, then post in all the forums, and then comment on everyones video. Is it really that serious? That’s some serious bashing. It’s a different story to say ” I didnt like there product”..but to go on a Internet rant is a little odd. I’ve seen it happen with all the larger natural hair  lines like Kinky Curly, Miss Jessies, Carol’s Daughter, etc…  Why so much hate towards the natural hair brands? If you don’t like something, why the need to make everyone else see your side or try to mess up someones business? Is it that serious?

Comments

curly comments!

  • Tiffany Hunter

    Preach!

  • Jazmin

    YES! I hope you make a video stating this because its really crazy how “we” as a people dog each other like this. Thank you for speaking out!

  • Lena

    Thank you so much! This not a vent or rant session, but you speaking the truth!
    I’ve stop watching some people’s Youtube videos and stop follow blogs or forums b/c of all the negativity. If you don’t like it, then YOU don’t like it. There is no need into going into a long winded discussion about it.
    Give the product away…dang.

  • You’re right– we should be trying to help each other on this journey. There are enough hurtful influences from outside the n.h. community, it’s time for it to stop.

  • It’s almost like some people lose their willpower when they go natural. I mean, I understand that going natural is a totally new experience for many of us, but … some women are ridiculous. i mean, if something was working for you before, don’t all of a sudden decide you’re going to throw it away just because so and so says it’s bad! think for yourself and your own hair! geeze. I mean, I’ve tried many things based on what other people say and if they seem to have the same hair type, but whether it works or doesn’t work is up to me. and the ingredients thing and obsession with going “all natural” … ugh, whatever. it’s like people become lemmings …

  • I get what you’re saying. Just saying, “This product is horrible! Don’t ever use it!” doesn’t help anybody. However, I *do* appreciate it when someone gives a balanced review of a product even if they didn’t like it, rather than not mentioning it. If someone can calmly say something like, “This product didn’t work for me because it made my hair stiff and that isn’t what I’m looking for”, then that would be helpful to the next person who may actually be looking for a product that will stiffen her hair and hold it in place for a certain style.

  • Adriane

    I totally agree! I’ve been thinking about this alot lately when visiting certain forums and then I see the same message posted on alot of blogs. I also think that this person or persons have a personal vendetta against the business that they are bashing. Then it makes me even madder when they began to talk about the creators as if they know them personally and start bashing them. You’re right. It isn’t that serious. It seems like once some of us go natural, that we forget that we use to use these same ingredients and our hair usually thrived on those ingredients. The worst is that it only takes one or two people to bash the product, and everyone else just join in like followers and not thinking or trying it for themselves began to agree and bash it themselves. Thanks for this post and having an open mind. Alot of people needed to hear this.

  • i couldn’t agree more.
    i’ll never forget, this girl posted something on tumblr, bashing how “women with natural hair need to stop spending so much money on natural products and buy the regular department brands”. while her statement, if worded differently, may be true, not all store brands work for all natural hair types. i’m trying the organix coconut milk conditioner– honestly, i don’t like it, and would rather just use my kinky curly knot today alone.

    but yes, lexi, #agreed!
    i’m your friend on facebook, so keep us posted on the meetup you’re planning!

  • i wish there was a “like” button on your blog…i would click it

  • Thank you so much for this post. I had a similar thing happen to me. One day I was just doing a random google search and came across the rant about my products not only in the forums on (a pop hair site) but also on the blog section of the site as well as the buyers personal blog on (another blog site). I was not pleased at all. Anytime, especially with a small/entrepreneurial company, always contact the seller first and discuss what happened with them. Chances are they are going to refund you your money or possibly send you a different product of your choice at an exchange or maybe for the free. Communication sometimes goes out the window. Remember that with small businesses, there is always at least one person dedicated to keeping the customer happy, because they cannot afford not to.

  • FOR REAL!

    and all they hafta do is review it on somewhere. like http://www.naturallycurly.com/curlproducts or something. when i have a strong opinion, i just post an honest review. Never disrespect the company! Especially these small brands that hand make everything. Shoo, i couldn’t do it! I won’t knock somebody who can! lol great post 🙂

  • Tamika

    I definitely agree everything that works for my hair may not work for someone else. It’s all about finding what works for you. The bashing is not me as well…I will never tell anyone don’t try a product because it didn’t work for me. If I have learned anything by going natural is that you have to be willing to try different products. I myself lean more towards the natural smaller companies. Thanks for posting.